Giving Thanks – Day 2

Happy November 2nd fellow bloggers/readers.

I have some great things to be thankful for today and so I am here to share with you.

**I am thankful that I made an appt (and I’m keeping it) with the Director at the YMCA to meet with a trainer and get started on the right foot when it comes to exercise.
**I’m thankful that I took a chance – I recently emailed the Director of said YMCA to ask if they offered discounted rates for people that had a medical necessity for exercise.  She said not really, that they have a std fee based usually, but they could see if I qualified for assistance.  I explained to her about my Diabetes and all that goes along with that diagnosis, all the meds I am on and how much those cost me and she got back to me and got me a discounted rate !!! WHOO HOOO – never know till you ask.
**I’m thankful that my blood sugars are as good as they are as of late and I am thankful for sticking to taking my meds as I should which helps with all of that. (GO FIGURE)
**I’m thankful that I took of tomorrow from the PT job so that I can get some things done and go to this appt.
**I’m thankful for my amazing friends and family.  They truly mean the world to me.

That’s it for today – I hope you all have a wonderful Friday and weekend.
~McQty~

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What I learned at Girls Night Out

Just the idea of a Girls Night Out might get some of us in hot water 🙂  It’s been awhile, a long, to long of a while since I got together with these friends.  I couldn’t remember how long it had been since I actually had a cocktail till Sass-a-Frass reminded me about a couple this past summer at her pool side.  So I definitely felt a drink or two were due !  So SAF and another old school chum of ours (lets call her…Jo) met up at a restaurant near SAF’s house.  I had a little bit of time to chat it up with SAF before Jo arrived.  Some things you just can’t discuss in the presence of Jo.  Anyway, we ordered a few drinks, mine being a black raspberry margarita… DELISH !! The big one 🙂  Remember, I’m deserving.  The girls were having the big beers.  I just can’t do beer. Anyway, we dive right in to catching up.  I get to talk to SAF anytime via email and we are always keeping up with each other and what’s going on, but this was the time to let loose and tell some of our more “fun” stories.  We also got to find out what was new in Jo’s world.  She lives back in our hometown about 2.5 hours from where SAF and I live now.  It’s a small town and everybody seems to know everybody.  So I bet your wondering what it is I learned… a lot.  Here are some of the highlights…

  • Black Raspberry Margaritas are DELISH !!!
  • My friend Sass-A-Frass has an amazing spirit to go with her amazing personality.
  • Jo is not too concerned with her 14 yr old daughter now having sex with her 18 yr old boyfriend who she has only been with a month.
  • There is no birth control for your mouth.
  • Big buffalo heads are fun to take pictures with, even if you have to stand up on things to get close to them and have waiters move the lights out of the way to get a good picture.
  • Sass-A-Frass is secretly wants to be a singer for a mariachi band.  She practiced in the restaurant.
  • We seemed to be great entertainment for anyone within ear shot and SAF’s voice carries.
  • We are so loved that the wait staff begged for us to come back every Thursday  night.
  • We had so much fun we forgot to eat.  We drank our calories.
  • Girls talk about farts when guys aren’t around.
  • We have to plan a trip to New Mexico for new tattoos.
  • All girls have slutty tendencies.

All in all we had a great time. We laughed until I cried. We entertained everyone, have videos and pictures to look back on, and all made it home safely.

Happy Friday All ~ enjoy your weekend !!~
~McQty~

It’s not Thanksgiving…

It’s not November, it’s not Thanksgiving, but it definitely is a time to be thankful. 

I read a fellow bloggers post, Survivingmiddleage, where she talks about her favorite day.  She made several good points in her post and it got me thinking (yep, I do it on occasion).  I think every new day given to us is something to be thankful for.  I thought I might make a list of things I am thankful for today. 

  • Thankful for supportive family and friends
  • Thankful for my wonderful boyfriend that loves me unconditionally, even though he drives me nuts at times.
  • Thankful for my job
  • Thankful for the drive I have to better my health
  • Thankful it’s Thursday and I get to see my dear friend Sass-a-frass (it’s been too long since I have visited with her)
  • Thankful it’s the day my nephew’s gift arrives for him today.  He will be so surprised, can’t wait to see the pictures.
  • Thankful for the awesome people in the world, the guy named SAM that found my dog when she went missing for more than 5 hours on Monday. 
  • Thankful for the rain that is about to hit.
  • Thankful for the awesome music on the radio right now and the co-workers that don’t mind my singing along. 
  • Thankful for the amazing technology we have today. The ability to blog my thoughts and feelings and to share in the lives of fellow bloggers. What an amazing, therapeutic outlet. 

I have so many things to be thankful for, it’s good to stop and think about those things. I hope everyone takes the time to think about all they have to be thankful for, too. 

Happy Thursday !!
~McQty~

 

My heart is heavy

I have a very dear friend that I went to school with in grade school and we reconnected a couple of years ago, thanks to Facebook. (Shout Out)

Let’s call my dear friend, Sass-a-frass.  I love this girl.  She is such an awesome woman.  She has the best sense of humor and she can make you pee from laughter just listening to her tell a story.  She’s so animated and so witty and she could easily be a comedian if she decided on a career change.  She’s a amazing wife and a mother and a type of woman that if she’s your friend, she’s your friend for life.  She’s sassy, and sexy, we already talked about how funny she is, she’s loyal, she’s caring, she’s strong and so much more.  She has the sweetest kiddos.  Her handsome young man that is wiser than his years.  He’s such a gentleman and just a pleasure to talk to.  She was a single mom with him for the most part and didn’t treat him like a baby and he is so bright because of it all.  She has a 1 yr old beautiful baby girl that will melt anyones heart.  She’s so foo foo and girlie, and I know she’s gonna grow up to be fiesty like her momma.  

Well I got some great news from Sass-a-Frass (SAF) last week, first we were nervous and she said she was late, her little one just turned one and SAF and her hubby were already busy with plans for finding a house and moving to a better location and all that goes along with that, so it wasn’t something that was timely.  I told her I would pray for the Period Fairy to visit her and soon…. well the next day I get a picture from SAF and it’s a pee stick with 2 blue lines… IT”S A BOY she says.  I was like WHAT? how do you know that.  She just had a feeling, she dreamed about a boy.  Well the excitement exploded.  SAF and her hubby tried for baby for 1o years with no luck and then the  little munchkin came along last year.  She is a delight and a blessing and this new baby (boy or girl) was going to be just as much a blessing.  Her husband was excited and so was I… I was already thinking of plans for a baby shower.  I did the last one for her so I have to out do that !! Plus I love shopping for babies and SAF is a cute preggo.  She a rail with a bump, she doesn’t know how to get fat.  One of the biggest excitements was she was gonna have some big boobs again being preggo.  You know it’s the little things that excite us at times.  So I was tickeled for SAF – for her soon to be big boobs and baby bump.

Yesterday I get a text from SAF and she lets me know that they found a house and they were going to be moving in at the end of the month. OH JOY, I was so excited for them.  I know how much more I love my house vs. the apt lifestyle.  She’s going to have rooms for each of the munchkins and a fenced in back yard and she was going to be closer to her sister too, I think that’s a good thing, but not 100% on that one 😛  Things just seemed to be falling into place and I was happy for her and her wonderful little family.

This morning I get a text that SAF has been in the ER all morning and she has lost the baby.  I was in a meeting and gasped when I read the text.  I did all I could to not tear up in front of all my co-workers and bosses.  It broke my heart for her, her hubby and baby’s big brother and sister.  If anyone deserves babies is this woman. SAF is such an awesome mom and any kid would be lucky to have her as their mom.  I’m at my desk and it’s pretty deserted right now in the office so I don’t mind the tears now.  My heart goes out to her.  I hope she finds peace with this and continues to have more babies in the future.  I need babies to spoil and it’s more fun to spoil others kids, so I’m leaving the child bearing up to her.

I love you Sass-A-Frass and I am thankful for your friendship and sharing your sweet family and life with me.  I will see you soon.  I am always a hop, skip and a jump away… and I can cut one of those out if you need me sooner.

XOXOXO
~McQty~

Jury duty, life, and other nonsense

So I have neglected my blogging as of late, seems I do that from time to time, especially when something is going on in my life – I know I’m backwards.  That should be the time I am posting the most… Oh well, someone’s gotta be outta the norm, why not me.

There’s lots to blog about and I don’t want to make a dozen or so posts, so I am going to make one long, random, somewhat scattered brained post… so consider yourself warned !!

I had jury duty on the 4th in which I actually got selected to serve on the jury.  I was shocked being selected as juror # 1.  Does this mean good or bad things? Well only time would tell.  I am so all about crime shows, law and order, police work and that kinda stuff and to actually witness it first hand how things work in a court room was a real eye opener.  I know things aren’t always as they seem on tv, but rarely do you get to see the other side.  It was really interesting to see our judicial system in action, and yet disappointing and sad in that same realization.  I ended up serving on the jury for 6 days.  6 very long days.  I so wanted to do my own cross-examination at times.  I had so many questions and the attorneys were just not asking what I wanted/needed to know.   It was hard not being able to discuss the case or my feelings or concerns with anyone until deliberation came.  The case was a divorce / child custody case that had been going on for 7 years.  There were 2 children 8 and 10 and we had to decide after all the stories – and there were some stories- who would get custody of the children.

I don’t want to go into all the details cause they are way to many to go over.  Bottom line is both parties were somewhat shady,  each admitted to lying at one point or another during the trial.  This started back in 05 when the wife’s family from Mexico showed up on a Sat night banging on the door demanding to take the wife and the 2 small children with them.  The wife even testified that she did not know that they were coming, but that didn’t stop her from leaving with them.  She fled town and did not contact the father for over a week.  He was frantic at the time and called the police and said that his wife’s family was going to take her back to Mexico, there was nothing the police could do because it was civil and they let her leave.  The wife said she was not going to Mexico.  That didn’t make sense to me considering her ride was all people from Mexico, but whatever.  She would not allow him to speak to the children, to know where they were living or going to school or anything in relation to the children.  The husband eventually filed for divorce and the court ordered the wife to bring the children back to the current county and for both parents to take a parenting class.  The wife did not do any of the things ordered by the judge. (I had a problem with this)  The wife hired an attorney where she was residing near the Mexican border and filed for divorce there.  During this time she enrolled the kids in a private school and on the paperwork which she testified to it being her handwritting listed the father of the children as her attorney.  Listed dual residence as her apt and the attorney’s house.  She listed 7 emergency contacts on the children’s information and none of them were their father.  The wife began a relationship with this attny and then had a child by him.  The father of the children who was still paying child support, paying for insurance on the children was not allowed any medical information, no information on the children’s school, their records, how they were doing… NOTHING.  He drove down to where they were living which is where they lived when first getting married and he went to pediatricians to try to get info and went the schools to get info and no one would cooperate or give any info to him and the wife had him arrested for stalking, which was later dismissed due to no evidence.  This attorney bf threatened the father, told him to not contact the children and such as that.  It was a mess.  The father wrote letters to governors, to congressmen, to officials out the wazzoo.  The FBI was involved due to the possibility of the mother kidnapping the children across the border.  The FBI agent was testifing about her case and investigation and she testified to interviewing the mother and asking her if she had taken the children to Mexico and when the mother said NO, the FBI agent felt the case needed to be closed immediately (HER WORDS).  When agent was cross examined, they asked if there was further investigation to find out if what the mother said was true, if family or friends had been interviewed, if her passport had been check to see if it had been scanned, the FBI agents said she did NO FURTHER INVESTIGATION !!! (THIS INFURIATED ME)  I could not believe she went on just the word of the mother saying she didn’t go.  This further made me angry when later in the trial the mother admitted to lying previous and said that she did take the children to Mexico, but just to visit and just for holidays and vacations.  HOW DO WE KNOW how long those visits were. OMG I was sick over this information.  I was sick of the lack of professionalism and due diligence of the so called professionals in this case.   So many people dropped the ball and this father suffered for it.  He lost special time with his children that he can never get back.  The father took parenting classes, on his own, paid for by himself.  He got psych eval, did counseling, and anything else he could do to show he was trying to cooperate in any and every way possible.    He did all of this on a Kindergarten teachers wages.  He is not made of money but did what he had to do to try to get visitation with his children.   In the end during deliberation there were women that could not see the men’s point of view and the big factor alot of them had were they didn’t want to relocate the kids b/c they were in the same place for the last 4 years and they have friends and activities there and such as that.   There were a few that felt the same way I did, however one of the guidelines in the verdict said… you cannot select joint custody if you feel the parents cannot agree to make decisions together on the best interests of the children.  Most of the people said they could never agree and so they would not vote for joint custody.  I made a point that because they could not agree then the mother would be rewarded with sole custody because she cannot follow even court orders.  The father never asked for sole custody, he only asked for joint and based on the previous notion the majority voted to give the mother sole custody and the father visitation.   I had a problem w/ that b/c with joint custody the mother gets 9 exclusive rights where the father has no input including, schooling, medical, religion, if they can get married or go into the army and a few more things.  I did not feel it right to not to allow the father to have input in those particular things as well.  The other jurors said well he will have rights to make decisions when he has them for visitation.  I then said that only makes him a glorified babysitter.  I explained that when I have my sister’s kids during the summer, I have to make decisions on their behalf, but that doesn’t make me their parent, that makes me their “babysitter”. I could not agree to make this man a babysitter to his children.  So it came down to a vote of 11/1, me being the only one to stick my guns.  When time for everyone to sign who agreed, one other lady who was really torn decided not to sign either, so the final vote was 10/2.   When the judge read the verdict, I teared up and was absolutely heartbroken.  Sad for the father who had been an excellent dad according to all the testimonies, to records, and such and so sad for these children that were going to miss out on time with their father.  This really effected me and I was so drained after this trial was over.  I pray to God that he will take it from here and somehow work things out for the better of all persons involved.

MOVING ON — I took some vacation days after the trial was over to recoup, to do some retail therapy which does wonders when one is in stress mode.  I did some cooking and party planning for a GNO – Girls Night Out that has been planned for at least 5 months.  I was disappointed as the week went on and I began getting cancellations from people who were dying to have this get together.   Some of the reasons for cancelling were absolutely absurd.  It made me think twice about who you can count on, who are your real friends, and how many unreliable people I have around me.  I then thought even more about the amazing wonderful people who I do have around me that I can count on and so I celebrated that day with them.  It turned from a GNO to a family bbq.  My sister and her hubby and youngest son drove into town and we all met up at my friends apt with her, her hubby and her 2 munchkins.  Then Chris made it over after he got off work to join us.  We grilled out, spent time in the pool and poolside doing the gossip thing and laughing out butts off.  My gf lets call her Sas-a-frass is so funny.  She cracks me up all the time and I love our times we get to visit.  I’m so glad my sister and her hubby got to come.  They have been going through their own ordeals after her husbands liver surgery and issues going on with her 2 oldest children and their dead-beat dad.   It turned out to be great fun had by all, except those loser biatches that missed out 🙂

What else?? Ummm Chris just finished his first year of college WHOO HOO, I am so proud of him and he even was on the deans list and nearly made straight A’s. That’s so great.  He has been working so hard and then Sat morning he got the asst mgrs position at work… The want to make him manager, however he goes to college full time and cannot work the amt of hours they want the mgr to work.   So now he has a few weeks off from school so we are going to take a few days this week and go back home to see my family, let him do a little fishing with the other men in my family and then I can have some more girl time with my sister.  She needs it, as do I.

Just returned to work today after being away for 2 weeks, nothing has changed, but it never does.

I don’t have to much more excitement to speak of so I will bore you no further. Happy Monday to everyone !!